I know that, as a former heavyweight, the last thing I wanted was to be seen as desirable. I knew I was fat and out of shape and rightly (in my mind) knew I was ugly.
You were honest but we don't hear what is truly being said most times. Ask her what she heard and start from there...apologize, then make honest attempts at getting back on track. Romantic gestures are fine but they have to be done because it's what you want, not to score points.
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Don't blame me. I didn't vote for either of'em.
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