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Originally Posted by StanT
Are we married?
This pretty much mirrors my wifes attitude and it drives me nuts. Ask for whatever you want, we hate guessing and our intuition really sucks. It's only nagging when you ask a second, third, or fourth time. It's only demanding when you won't accept "no" as an answer. Don't phrase it as a question if "no" isn't an acceptable answer.
As far as "doing things" for us, if we don't notice, we probably don't care. You are not "doing something for us", if it isn't something we want or care about. You are actually doing it for yourself. That's ok, but we really don't need the implied guilt or debt.
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lol I can see what you are saying. My situation has been that often the guy I've been with will ask something and if he doesn't like my answer will ask again. Then I either have to say "no" again and become demanding or say the opposite of what I want.
As for the "doing things" for you guys - I'm talking about things such as, baking, dusting your electronics, picking up your tools, sweeping your shop, etc. Things that are for the GUY only. Things that take effort and that should be appreciated. There is no intent in guilt or to create a indebtedness. There is only a desire to please and when you don't express any pleasure at having things easier to find, cleaner, or good food on the table then we loose the desire to do ANYTHING you want.
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