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Originally Posted by raeanna74
I've done this. Most of the time I WANT the guy to do something for me but I hate to sound like a nag and ask for it at all. If I start asking for everything I need then I become demanding. We're hoping you'll catch on without us being "demanding". If we get demanding then we're labled as "high maintance". In a sense, guys have forced us into "hinting" at stuff so that we don't sound like a nag, demanding, or high maintance. There's lots that we'd love for you to do. At least personally I have done lots for my guy and often the guy doesn't even notice. We think it's gonna be noticed and then when it isn't we are disappointed but we don't want to sound like we're bragging by pointing every little thing out cause there's so many little things that we do.
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Are we married?
This pretty much mirrors my wifes attitude and it drives me nuts. Ask for whatever you want, we hate guessing and our intuition really sucks. It's only nagging when you ask a second, third, or fourth time. It's only demanding when you won't accept "no" as an answer. Don't phrase it as a question if "no" isn't an acceptable answer.
As far as "doing things" for us, if we don't notice, we probably don't care. You are not "doing something for us", if it isn't something we want or care about. You are actually doing it for yourself. That's ok, but we really don't need the implied guilt or debt.