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What exactly do people mean by "complete me"? I can't imagine ever feeling "complete" in the sense that I have everything in my life that I want or need - first, impossible, and second what stagnation!
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I think of feeling "complete" as being a goal to strive for, a state of being satisfied with every important part of one's life. I have days when everything seems as if this is how it is supposed to be, as if this is what I want my life to be. Perhaps the Maslow term self-actualized is closer to what I'm thinking of. If you define "complete" as meaning a permanent state of satisfaction with one's life, then I agree that it's not really possible, nor even desirable.
But I do think we can find competion, in the sense of long-term satisfaction, in certain aspects of our lives. For example, I'm very happy with my job right now, and have no desire whatsoever to advance further in my career. Being a classroom teacher is what I want from my career, and all by itself it's challenging and fulfilling. That part of my life is, at this point, complete. Maybe someday in the future I'll decide that teaching an evening adolescent literature class isn't enough, I want to be a college professor. The goal might move at some pount.
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If people think that that is what they're going to get from a relationship or from having a child, they're in for a whole lot of disappointment. I don't mean to be condescending, but I feel a bit sorry for anyone who tries to find "completion" outside themselves - why hand over so much power to any person or thing? What happens if that person leaves or dies, or that thing disappears? Seems much better to recognize ones own inherent completion and then do things because they're in line with who you are, rather than looking for something to fulfill what you see as an essential lack in your life.
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How do we define completion (or fulfillment, or self-actualization) if not through how we interact with externals and how that interaction makes us feel? My relationships with my family, with my job, with my home take me to a place where I can be happy. If all of that were suddenly gone tomorrow, I would be devastated.
That said, having a baby is exactly the wrong place to look for that part of your life, because your job as a parent is by definition never complete. I've seen too many girls who thought that getting pregnant and having a baby would give them someone to love who would always love them, who thought that it would complete them, or fix that broken part of their lives.
I try to pound it into their heads that having a baby is a burden. We do opportunity cost each year in Family Planning, and a baby, a child, represents the single biggest opportunity cost a person has. A baby is a black hole that sucks up your time, your money, your energy, often your emotional strength. Unless the benefits outweigh those costs--and for many, many people they do--having a baby is not a good idea.