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When I was 21, I had an affair with my married boss (he pursued me). It never “felt” like he was married since I never met his wife or saw him with her, and he rarely talked about her. One day about two months into the affair, I went to work to find he had been in a motorcycle accident and was in the hospital. It was awful – I had no way to contact him; I couldn’t even show any reaction since the affair was a Big Secret . I finally took my brother with me to the hospital for a visit, and of course there was his wife & mother. It all went downhill after that – his mom heard him on the phone telling me he loved me…his wife found out WHO I WAS (she worked for the phone company), and then one day he shows up on my doorstep. He’d left his wife and expected to immediately move in with me. By this time the full effect of what I had done by dating a married man had hit me, and I wanted as far from all of them as possible. It was horrible & messy, but eventually he and his wife reconciled. I never dated a married man again, and if I had to choose over, I never would have gone out with him in the first place. It’s one of the very few regrets in my life.
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