joemc91

As with many roommate problems, this one can be traced back to the ladies. Not their fault however, it just happens to revolve around them. My roommate has had a crush on this girl for about 2 years now. It has never gone anywhere, even though she has known about it for quite some time. I normally stay out of anything when a roommate has a girl around, so I never really knew her.

A few weeks ago we (the girl and I) started hanging out because we both swim for excercise and enjoy a lot of coffee. We ended up really hitting it off. One thing led to another and now we're dating. I feel that as a roommate I am obligated to tell him what's up since I don't want any rumors spread around and for him to find out from someone else. I did and now I'm starting to regret it. He refuses to acknowledge my existence now. Not even looking at me when I greet him in the apartment and already after two days I'm really starting to get depressed about it. I want him to be happy, but shit!, why should I sacrifice my happiness for his? If they had dated at some point I would feel differently, but they never have, so I didn't feel this was that much of an issue. I really don't want to lose him as a friend and am trying my damndest to mend things.

He has actually been dragging the apartment down over the past semester with his depressing and angry moods. When I invite him out, I am answered with a "why do you even invite me? You know I'll say no!" and if I don't invite me I am told "of course I never go out, you never tell me about it!". Overall I feel as if I've created a world of mess but at the same time I don't feel as if I am truly the one at fault. Any takes on this? Either how to mend the situation or anything I could do?