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joemc91 · 05-02-2005, 10:30 PM

As with many roommate problems, this one can be traced back to the ladies. Not their fault however, it just happens to revolve around them. My roommate has had a crush on this girl for about 2 years now. It has never gone anywhere, even though she has known about it for quite some time. I normally stay out of anything when a roommate has a girl around, so I never really knew her.

A few weeks ago we (the girl and I) started hanging out because we both swim for excercise and enjoy a lot of coffee. We ended up really hitting it off. One thing led to another and now we're dating. I feel that as a roommate I am obligated to tell him what's up since I don't want any rumors spread around and for him to find out from someone else. I did and now I'm starting to regret it. He refuses to acknowledge my existence now. Not even looking at me when I greet him in the apartment and already after two days I'm really starting to get depressed about it. I want him to be happy, but shit!, why should I sacrifice my happiness for his? If they had dated at some point I would feel differently, but they never have, so I didn't feel this was that much of an issue. I really don't want to lose him as a friend and am trying my damndest to mend things.

He has actually been dragging the apartment down over the past semester with his depressing and angry moods. When I invite him out, I am answered with a "why do you even invite me? You know I'll say no!" and if I don't invite me I am told "of course I never go out, you never tell me about it!". Overall I feel as if I've created a world of mess but at the same time I don't feel as if I am truly the one at fault. Any takes on this? Either how to mend the situation or anything I could do?

05-02-2005, 10:30 PM	#1 (permalink)
joemc91 Insane Location: Chicago	Roommate problems, sort of my fault As with many roommate problems, this one can be traced back to the ladies. Not their fault however, it just happens to revolve around them. My roommate has had a crush on this girl for about 2 years now. It has never gone anywhere, even though she has known about it for quite some time. I normally stay out of anything when a roommate has a girl around, so I never really knew her. A few weeks ago we (the girl and I) started hanging out because we both swim for excercise and enjoy a lot of coffee. We ended up really hitting it off. One thing led to another and now we're dating. I feel that as a roommate I am obligated to tell him what's up since I don't want any rumors spread around and for him to find out from someone else. I did and now I'm starting to regret it. He refuses to acknowledge my existence now. Not even looking at me when I greet him in the apartment and already after two days I'm really starting to get depressed about it. I want him to be happy, but shit!, why should I sacrifice my happiness for his? If they had dated at some point I would feel differently, but they never have, so I didn't feel this was that much of an issue. I really don't want to lose him as a friend and am trying my damndest to mend things. He has actually been dragging the apartment down over the past semester with his depressing and angry moods. When I invite him out, I am answered with a "why do you even invite me? You know I'll say no!" and if I don't invite me I am told "of course I never go out, you never tell me about it!". Overall I feel as if I've created a world of mess but at the same time I don't feel as if I am truly the one at fault. Any takes on this? Either how to mend the situation or anything I could do?