I think you should enlist Quadro's help in identifying the...er...target. Someone he thinks is hot and that you think is acceptable and likely to be up for it. Spend some time with her and when the moment feels right, you just ask her...something like "this is really awkward, but we were wondering if...." If she totally freaks, then um, guess she wasn't the right woman! My guess is that most people would either be flattered but not interested in horning in on your marriage, or they'll jump at the chance to be involved with him or with both of you - you're both hotties
