Disk_Pusher

Before I begin, let me say that I am not attempting nor is it my intent to generalize all women, simply to express my confusion and irritation at a select and small group of women.

It seems as of late I've been forced to deal with a kind of woman I am very unfamiliar with. Our current roommate's girlfriend, as well as a former roommate, in addition to a gaggle of women I've met at college seem to have no problem taking what is not theirs (as in food and property), abusing other people's trust (said girlfriend gambled away her boyfriends portion of the rent, for example), and then demanding to be treated as equals because they "aren't little girls."

I've been raised to believe that if you want to be equal, you have to take all the responsibility that comes with being equal. That means even the little things, like not expecting others to pay your bills, feed you, or clean your house. I don't expect anything from other people unless I've done something to earn it (like a paycheck), but it seems the women I have been encountering lately really expect everything for nothing simply because of their gender, and I'm growing so frustrated to the point where I found myself thinking one night that perhaps the woman's rights movement was a huge farce and a waste of time.

Obviously, I'm wrong. I know I'm wrong. Hell, I'm HAPPY to be wrong as a woman myself! Furthermore, it scares me to be thinking along those lines, simply because (even though I'm not Christian) I believe I've committed a wrong even thinking along those lines. However, when I see women who cannot function outside of an "others will make everything right, I need not do anything" mentality, I get so incredibly frustrated and angry. It seems to me that if you can't take the responsibility of living as an adult, like paying your bills and fixing your own problems, that you can't ask to be treated as an adult, much less as an equal to a man whom you expect to correct these problems for you.

All this being said and patiently read by y'all, how should I move forward? Is there some method to dealing with such women, as it seems hopeless to avoid them entirely? Am I doing something wrong? If I am, I want to fix it. I don’t think it’s unreasonable to ask another woman to behave maturely and responsibly, especially when they ask the same of me, but maybe it is. Maybe I’m completely backwards.

I appreciate your input and advice especially as I would like to know what other women think on this, but knowing I'm not the only one angry about this would make me feel great, sadly enough.

~Liz