I agree with sexymama's response to this situation. The way that those things are stated sounds just about right to me, without you having to sound as if you are repremanding her out right. You are just making your childs environment safe, and i see nothing wrong with that.
I have this kind of problem with my friend and her 4 children. 3 of them are her step kids and she is soo hard on them it kinda makes me mad and I let them do things that she wouldn't because they might get dirty. Now her youngest is her and her fiance's child andhe is spoiled to death. She claims all these allergies and what nots and has an excuse for everything, and let me tell you, It gets sooo old. Ok, the more I think about it, it's really not the same more of the opposite, I guess I am the spoilee when it comes to her older kids but only because they really are great kids, when they are allowed to be kids...but her youngest is going to be 2 and I just can't believe the things she lets him get away with, then she yells at her oldest son (9 yrs.) for not watching him...gets so rediculous!
Ok, I'm gonna go off topic if I don't stop. But again I like how sexymama phrased the responses and I hope that in the future you will be able to handle them in a manner that makes you more comfortable. Your son depends on you to make sure he is safe and treated fairly, so I see nothing wrong with your want for that
