Hey guys,
Thank you so much for your feeback. I did talk with her today, and we both agreed to pretty much what Mal has stated. She took it quite well, actually. I want to be a part of her life, but i dont want to
be her life. I guess that it does complicate things that i am graduating, and she isnt. (we are both in the same major (aerospace engineering), so she is intesely jealous that i've already gone through all the hell that will be her next 2 years, hehe). Chances are that i'll still be living fairly close to her, even once i graduate.
Anyhow i guess my ultimate goal in strengthening our relationship is to be able to put myself in her shoes, and sort of see where she is coming from emotionally and such, therby being able to cheer her up when she is feeling down, etc. In some ways Stacey is hard-headed in that she wont go ask for help when she needs it (we're pretty sure she has adult ADD), and that in general getting bad grades is really hard on her. So aside from getting her ADD treated, is there any way i can help shore up her emotional fragility that comes with being in not-so-fun classes, and being generally self concious about how she preforms in school? Its just hard/stressful to see the one i love putting herself down, and making herself think that she sucks at life. Thanks again guys, you are much more supportive than i had even though capable! *hug* yes, thats right....i'm a guy saying *hug*. Deal with it
~Ian