This dilemna goes in the pantheon of toughies for guys. How to express to a woman you're really into that she smells funky. In your case, Stompy, this might be an area where neurosis is a bonus. Are you a neat freak about other things? Germophobic a little? If so, the freshness thing is just another part of it. Make it a "Its me,not you" kind of thing. Then again, I'd be the kind of guy to develop germophobia just to justify the showering before loving kind of thing
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