Stompy

Maybe it's just me, but I have a very hard time getting into sexual relations with someone if they haven't showered a few hours (and by few, I mean 2-3) beforehand.

It's not that the people I've been with have had bad hygeine (in fact, quite the opposite), but there's something that just turns me off knowing that things aren't clean. Vaginal areas can be quite, for lack of a better word, "stale" after a few hours, if you know what I mean.

Personally, if I know I'm gonna be doing something later in the day, I make it a point to take a shower so I'm all freshened up. Others aren't always the same way and, like I said, it can be quite a turn off.. especially if they expect you to go down on them.

Whenever I do something with someone, the first thought that goes through my head is "..was their last shower at 9 AM? Damn.. it's fuckin 8:30 PM.. that's almost 12 hours and they've been walkin around and stuff all day.."

Hahah, so yeah... is this abnormal? Is anyone else like this?

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doncalypso

I could agree with you on that one when it comes to oral sex... but for regular sex I'm a bit more lenient. However, after 12 hours they better not expect that I'm gonna kiss and lick them all over while we have sex, and there's no way they're sleeping on my bed after a full day without a shower and a long session of hot sex. Once the sex is done it's shower time.

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Carno

Well, if they expect me to go down on them, then yes I do prefer them to be a little fresh. If it's just a quickie though, then I don't really care.

I always make sure to clean myself if I know I'll be getting head. Common courtesy.

Redlemon

Nope, not me. Oral sex first thing in the morning, 23 hours after last shower? No problem. The first few licks might be a little tangy, but her natural juices quickly dominate. Urine is sterile, anyway (I hate to link to it, and I really hope nobody posts to it to revive it, but see old thread Peeing in the shower).

Furthermore, seeing her dripping with sweat just makes me want to lick her clean.

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danny_boy

Regular sex is no problem, have had it after a long sweaty workout.

Oral, no way in hell. The initial odour is way too powerful and consuming. As long as both partners undersand this and are on the same page, this is easily resolved.

Plus, you could always ask them to shower with you. That's erotic, and you can clean eachother.

Sage

I LOVE the way Martel smells after a long day, or two... not necessarily lovin' sticking my nose up his butt, but yeah, I like a whiff of the manliness! It turns me on!

I've given oral when he's not showered for a day or so, it's not bad at all, but I must say my favorite is when he's clean and freshly shaved, and my favorite for recieving oral is for me to be clean and freshly shaved. I don't think it's wierd at all to want your lover to be clean- just tell them you want to soap them up as foreplay!

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Martel

aww, but i LIKE it when you stick your nose up my butt...

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Acetylene

Dude, if you're grossed out by your girl, for the love of God, don't tell her. If you make her feel like she is smelly and undersirable, either A. she'll never sleep with you again, or B. she'll think it's her fault, feel horrible, and you'll have made her feel dirty and ashamed. NOT GOOD THINGS!

My ex-boyfriend always wanted me to shower immediately beforehand, and made it very clear he thought my juices and sweat were distasteful. He made me lie on a towel to have sex and wouldn't let me touch him afterwards until I'd washed off HIS cum. He was my first and I thought this meant I really was gross. Can you say "neurosis"?? When Kel invited me to bed, and I said I was on my period and hadn't showered since the morning, and he said "So what?" I practially fainted--someone didn't find me repulsive!

Anyway, I still like the way I feel when I have just showered--it is a different feeling and texture. I'm not saying you're awful for wanting her clean. What I'm saying is, BE POSITIVE. Invite her to shower with you. Tell her how soft her skin is when it's fresh and moist from the bath. Get excited about her smoothness when she's freshly shaved. She'll get the hint and do it because you like it, not because she feels dirty.

Of course, some girls really ARE dirty. My housemate showers maybe once a week, and hasn't washed her sheets since we moved in. But that is a different story!

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la petite moi

Oh man, yeah, I remember when nwlinkvxd hadn't showered for two days and I gave him a BJ...jesus, the stank that came from his ass. GOD.

I actually prefer when he hasn't showered for awhile, cos if he just showers, he tastes of soap when I give oral. Bleehhhhhh. I really do like the manly smell thing too.

maxhooters

i would agree with you if it was just oral that you are talking about. and any other sex i think you are too picky. just be lucky you are getting some

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TM875

...did you people ever go to college?

I speak for my entire floor here (and this was in the Clinton era, so maybe we were all a little more leinent on things sexual) but, hell, if we showered 3 times a week it was a lot. This went for the guys AND the girls, by the way.

I think it's one of those things that much better if you just don't focus on it.

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Stompy

Haha, just to clarify, I'm not grossed out by the people I'm with, nor are they dirty... I'm just saying I get a bit turned off if a shower isn't had within a few hours.

I mean, things could smell/taste just fine, but I'd still be turned off for some reason KNOWING that it's been a while.

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insidious_machinae

I have only ever done this to LPM when she's having her period. But now I feel guilty about it.

abaya

Well it's one thing to MAKE someone lie down on a towel during sex, and another thing if it's just to avoid a mess (esp. blood, which stains). When I'm on my period, ktstpktsp and I put down a plastic grocery bag and then a few paper towels on top, which works great (a little crinkly, and I have to stay on the bag for the serious thrusting, but otherwise fine) and has never made a mess. That's about the only "cleanliness" precaution we take though... I mean, showers are great, but they're only really necessary before rimming (see other thread in Sexuality!) or if things are starting to get ripe...

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dougiefresh

This dilemna goes in the pantheon of toughies for guys. How to express to a woman you're really into that she smells funky. In your case, Stompy, this might be an area where neurosis is a bonus. Are you a neat freak about other things? Germophobic a little? If so, the freshness thing is just another part of it. Make it a "Its me,not you" kind of thing. Then again, I'd be the kind of guy to develop germophobia just to justify the showering before loving kind of thing .

Redlemon

I just wanted to point out the humor in a user named "dougiefresh" posting in this thread.

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tecoyah

A womans natural scent is by far.....my number one weakness. That said, there is a point where things can be a bit.....overpowering. As with all things however, these little things do not merit a need to become anal (pun intended) about it. There are far too many places on a womans body to focus attention, to allow distraction from the creation of pleasure.

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ShaniFaye

we have sex, whenever we feel like it....we both shower together every morning and if we feel like going at it at nite...the last time we showered is never an issue. Dave will go down on me ANYTIME. The only time I "make" him shower after work is if he's been working with fiberglass. If we've both been out getting hot and sweaty sex is good then too. Dave's natural smell drives me nuts and can (and has) made me hornier than him touching me.

The only time cleanliness is an issue is if we are doing something anal related.

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snowy

TOTALLY know where you're coming from...my lover smells delicious and a whiff of him can set me off like nothing else. I've got so many positive associations with his natural smell--fun times, relaxing times, sexy times...any time I smell him it's like aromatherapy. Mm. Just last night I was nuzzling his neck and telling him how yummy he smelled even though he hadn't showered all day...

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ShaniFaye

too bad we cant capture it somehow and make candles out of it.

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snowy

Oh God, I would love that so much. I did manage to find a candle that kind of smells like him--it at least reminds me of the way he smells. And that helps.

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la petite moi

See, nwlinkvxd doesn't understand why I like sniffing his armpits. Hahahahaha...

Suave

Best oral sex description ever.

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Elegant Holmes

Anyone remember the deoderant add: "It's hard to get close to a guy... if he smells." Or am I just showing my age?

astrahl

There is something to be said for the natural pheromones. After my husband has been out racing on the bike or working out, his chest smells so good. He always warns me of the potential for stink, but I have yet to sample his chest and be disappointed. Showering too often is a detriment if you are attracted to your mate's smell.

I love the theory that the smell attraction has to do with complementary immunity. People who have complementary immunity are attracted to eachother by scent and will end up producing stronger offspring.

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Oh, and I DO remember that commercial, but I was only a child.

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HAL3000

... too funny!


I agree with you though about being "too fresh and soapy". I love the way my wife smells... it's just HER. I appreciate a clean, soft, freshly shaven body like the next person... but not being showered certainly would NOT be a deal breaker for me. Oral or not... I love it all!

Gilda

Evolutionary scientists believe that the purpose of pubic and armpit hair is to absorb sweat so that the scent produced can attract a mate. This function is less important now that daily bathing is common and have any more than a slight body odor is socially unacceptable, but, as many have testified here, smell still plays an important role.

I'll go down on Grace pretty much any time, and she shares that sentiment. We both keep our nether regions free of that scent trapping apparatus, so even at the end of the day, the smell doesn't get any worse than a pleasant musky odor most of the time, and if it's a bit too much, giving your partner a quick cleaning to prepare her can be quite pleasurable, both on the giving and recieving end.

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KinkyKiwi

mmm..i agree..i love the way biznatch smells when he hasnt taken a shower first...its like musky and rich but still kinda sweet...its totally his smell and its amazingly arousing..but lol yea lpm has a point...stinky butts arent nice...(and lpm i'm so glad i'm not the only girl that sniffs her bf..even under the arm pits...)

now as to how long before showers and whats too long...i prefer like 10 -12 hours...but if i wanna freshen up i grab a baby wipe with the aloe..that way i smell like me but i taste and smell cleaner

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boredom

im gonna agree with doncalypso oral is prefer a shower, but regular sex im a bit iffy. Both end up smelling the same afterwards anyways.

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little_tippler

both myself and my partner try to keep things trim and clean down there, so it's not really an issue. that said, I prefer it if he's washed recently, but it doesn't have to have been a few minutes ago. Mainly because I'm prone to infections so if he hasn't washed I'm more likely to get something up there that way. I like his smell...and also smell his armpits. Out of courtesy, I don't usually let him go down on me if things aren't sqeaky clean...but that's just me, I don't feel comfortable with it otherwise and it spoils it for me.

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dougiefresh

I just got a laugh out of seeing my name on this type of thread too, Red Lemon. With a nickname like this, I better be fresh!