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Originally Posted by Rodney
A lot of time mooching is just laziness and thougtlessness and immaturity. Mooches will do it until you call them on it; then they either leave to mooch elsewhere (no loss) or straighten out, not without some bitching. But that's their problem.
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That's what worked for me. I'm still sort of young so I haven't had big experiences like some stated here with people coming to stay with other people.. but back in high school I had this one friend who actually
expected me to bring her things, and her reasoning was because we were friends and that's what friends do. It rotated around cigarettes. At first I would bring enough for both of us because I had cash flow, and didn't want to have one during lunch and have her not have any. I was just a nice person. A few times she would only show up at school solely for the cigarettes I had brought for her. One time I said no, it's costing me too much money to support your habit for 2 years, she got insanely mad at me, took me to "Go f*ck myself" and then left for awhile. So I figured, fine, I don't need your friendship anyway.
Needless to say, we're still friends today. Although we only see eachother once every few months, and she has stopped the mooching. (Although she borrowed one of my books months ago, promised she would return it the next day, and still hasn't. And it's a Stephen King book, and I'm very protective about those.)
My older brother also mooches off my parents. He's 22, lives at home, has a good job, yet he doesn't feel the need to help my parents out with bills or work around the house. My parents don't mind us living here, as long as we do contribute to the household. My parents are constantly going broke with bills, and he's rolling in money and doesn't feel the need to help out a little. He hasn't gotten the "bitching" yet sort to speak, so he's currently still doing it. He needs to move out and find out what the real world is like. But I'm probably going off topic..
Mooching and mooching from one side only is not a friendship, from my point of view anyway with my experiences.