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I have no problem with the family bed for smaller children. I agree that this was probably the natural situation in our species for 99% of its existence, and still is for probably 80% of the current population.
But I think it's good to start encouraging them to sleep in their own bed by about age 3. Somewhere between 3 and 5 is a good time to make the transition.
There's a lot of cultural variation. In Germany the family bed is unheard of. Parents commonly plant their kids in their room at 8PM and they're not allowed to come out until morning, period. If a kid isn't completely potty trained by age 1 then you're perceived as lax or stupid parents (we were by some of our German friends).
Our next door neighbors slept with their daughter (only child) until she was past adolescence, I think she was around 14 when she finally started sleeping alone.
Definitely a 10 year old needs to be sleeping on his own. If he can't then he needs to be getting professional help for whatever problem he's having.
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