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I've slept with my daughter. I snuggle her to sleep often. When she was born I breastfed and co-slept with her. It was easier on me. Now she and I read stories. I actually started out with that and then convinced her to lie there looking at books after ONE story and I would come back in a few minutes to check on her. Which I did. It helped her still feel like I was there since she was so used to it. At this point I often lie down and read to her and half the time I fall asleep myself even in the middle of the book. Hubby comes to wake me though and I leave her to sleep on her own. She's to the point though (she's 4 1/2) that I can EASILY get her through her evening abolutions and to bed by around 8:30 and leaving her to fall asleep on her own rarely results in any argument.
Of course this mother enjoys the snuggling and why wouldn't any parent but there's a point at which you much take into consideration other aspects of the child's development and your own personal physical and emotional health as a parent.
I am QUITE suprised that this 10 yr old boy has no desire to go to sleep on his own. Unless he feels pressure by his mother and is afraid of hurting her feelings. No matter what she needs to allow him to learn some independence at this age before he starts PUSHING for it and alienates himself from her.
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"Always learn the rules so that you can break them properly." Dalai Lama
My Karma just ran over your Dogma. 
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