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It’s hard for me to comment without feeling like I’m just agreeing with everybody else but I’m going to give it a shot. First off I think it’s normal for you to be bothered if you think about past sexual experiences your girlfriend has had. At least, the same thing happens to me, and I’m in a similar boat. I’m 22 gf is 19 and she was more sexually experienced than I when we got together. I know it’s irrational to get upset about it, but that doesn’t necessarily make it abnormal. Men are competitive by nature, these sort of things are just natural. I think it would be a problem if you ever took it out on her or made her feel bad about it though. As long as you deal with it in a healthy manner it shouldn’t ever be a problem. When my girl and I were first together it came up once or twice, I’d be honest with her and tell her how I felt of course. That just makes her feel bad so I try to avoid the subject whenever it seems like it could come up, I really don’t want my irrational masculine thoughts to affect the one I love in a negative manner. I definitely think that you shouldn’t try to compare yourself to her past lovers or anything. She’s not with those people any more for a reason. Women want a lot more out of a man than somebody who can just pound the shit out of them for an hour with a giant donkey cock. She probably enjoys the fact that you are a virgin. Besides you don’t seem to have any problems with longevity. That brings me to your second point. I don’t really know what to say about that. I tend to have the opposite problem if I’m not careful. I think your problem, if you even want to call it that will subside as you relax and get used to the whole act of love making. It’s probably anxiety related or something. Do you think about whether or not you are going to be able to cum when you are making love? I’d say that’s probably a bad idea you should just focus on being intimate and enjoy yourself. The fact that you all communicate so well should allow you to overcome any sort of problems you may have. Talk about what you both enjoy in bed. I find that if I focus on what my lover enjoys it helps me to relax.
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"People sleep peacably in their beds at night only because rough men stand ready to do violence on their behalf" -George Orwell
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