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mbchills, she's making the relationship about what she wants again. It has nothing to do with how you feel. Honestly a relationship has to be 50%-50% for both to get what they want out of it. (At least in most cases)
I don't see her giving the other 50%. To say that it’s your fault is just denial of the situation; SHE is the one thinking of going back to her ex, not you. When you see her or talk to her obviously you treat her with respect and the way you normally do but when she starts talking about making plans with you and returning the situation to something you have already fallin into, let her know that you have no interest in being that kind of a friend with her.
You can be her friend without listening to her issues, saying "hi" in the halls and being cordial is just common courtesy. Just keep in mind that you must get what you want out of the situation, and if she’s not willing to care about your needs then it’s not the right type of women (girl?) for you. Let her mature emotionally before you come back and trust me you’ll know when that happens.
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