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Wow ladies, i dont knwo if you realize it, but those who have this problem who have commented on relating, kudos to you for taking your first step to fixing this "issue" (that term is realative and subjective) and i really respect the fact you can stand out here and ask for help. When i was stuck there i just tried to figure it out for myself.
By no means do i know what im talking about, but i was there too. I got past it through a mix of personal sexual exploration (finding out what turns me on when im by myself), having a guy that would encourage but not force new things, the occasional trip to a sexual place (porn shop field trip!), confidence boosters, and some time.
I guess Ill include the one thing that isnt listed in here. Talk about sex. not just to your SO, but to your friends. now when i say this, DO NOT share your sex life. ask questions, and if you do share, leave out names or details of who you are talking about (to avoid a feeling of bragging and uncomfortable) and read to. getting past the words Sex and the various other vocab (written and spoken) helps to. it will help to open up communcation and when you realize that THEY ARE JUST WORDS, they will remain in your repoitroir (SP) and you can use them and not let them scare you.
Good luck, and when it comes down to it, just try it, and if anythign you will know more!
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