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sgtcarrot · 03-25-2005, 05:04 PM

Little Tippler, I must tell you that when I read your initial post I burst out crying. I cried because it was like you had written down everything that is swirling around my head. I too suffer from the same lack of confidence and assertiveness, feelings of silliness, and the constant battles with my "inner girl" -- I call her my 14 year old -- when it comes to sex.

I also want to thank everyone who posted for the great advice. I think it all can be summed up in -- "just get stuck in there." I've been seeing a therapist about this problem, who has given me some great advice, but at the end of the day its going to come down to me to make the decision to be more assertive, to be more chilled about the topic and act of sex - that's where I'm stuck at. If any one has any tips on how to stop one's brain from overthinking sex, please let me know!

Thanks again for starting this thread -- good luck!

03-25-2005, 05:04 PM	#15 (permalink)
sgtcarrot Upright	Little Tippler, I must tell you that when I read your initial post I burst out crying. I cried because it was like you had written down everything that is swirling around my head. I too suffer from the same lack of confidence and assertiveness, feelings of silliness, and the constant battles with my "inner girl" -- I call her my 14 year old -- when it comes to sex. I also want to thank everyone who posted for the great advice. I think it all can be summed up in -- "just get stuck in there." I've been seeing a therapist about this problem, who has given me some great advice, but at the end of the day its going to come down to me to make the decision to be more assertive, to be more chilled about the topic and act of sex - that's where I'm stuck at. If any one has any tips on how to stop one's brain from overthinking sex, please let me know! Thanks again for starting this thread -- good luck!