I have a small circle of casual friends, and my SO has a couple of close friends, mostly because we don't really have much in common with the other's group, and we have our "couple" friends.
Is he different now from before he knew you? I mean, did he have a circle of freinds before that he no longer talks to, or was a loner before?
If it's the former case, he really shouldn't neglect his former friends in favor of you. If it's the latter, well, he's being fairly consistent with his life previous to your relationship, and I don't see anything wrong with him being friendly with your freinds.
To answer the title question, I think we shouldn't have to change our fundamental nature to please our partner--if you were content to be without a group of friends before you should be allowed to be so after finding a partner. If you had freinds before, you shouldn't have to give them up. You shouldn't have to change your friends to please your partner either way.
Last edited by Gilda; 03-24-2005 at 08:21 PM..
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