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As far as the situation itself goes, blokes in general just aren't as outgoing as girls, so they just don't make friends so readily. Men do actively make friends to a certain extent, but it tends to be more passive - growing friendly with people you are constantly exposed to - rather than active - going out of your way to meet people arranging social engagements etc.
Your frustration with this situation may be more to do with the way you are subconsciously interpreting his behaviour. To you, your behaviour is the norm and his failure to conform to this is simply irritating in its own right, just like failure to conform to other social norms such as conversational ettiquette, is irritating in its own right.
From your description of the situation it seems that you also feel that he is somewhat dependent on you. An important part of the process of courtship, which is essentially where you still are if you don't have any kids, is demonstrating to your prospective partner that you are more than capable of looking after yourself. If you perceive that he is failing to do this and showing that he depends on you, you will naturally feel uncomfortable about it.
As pattycakes points out, it's very easy to make friends at school than at work for several reasons. He probably just needs to come into contact with more like-minded people in a context where he has an opportunity to socialise. Maybe try to persuade him to take some evening classes, or, as geeky as it may sound, join some clubs or societies.
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