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honestly, i think you have a point. maybe it's moot...he's shy and doesn't really have the consitution for getting out and meeting a whole bunch of new folks. but it's good to have separate support systems and people to talk to. divided loyalties can be a huge issue...
i have a reputation as a guy who knows women fairly well...and a fair number of guys will come to me with relationship questions. i don't know if the reputation is deserved, or whatever...but it happens. nearly all the times, my first loyalty is to the woman...i knew her first and best. i'll give advice that i think is fair, but i won't hesitate to cut some of these guys off at the knees if i think they're being assholes to my friends.
long story short? separate friend networks mean that both of you have better support when there are tensions in the relationship. trying to share the same support network leads to people becoming middlemen/women, etc.
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