She sounds just like my wife used to be. Sex is supposed to be natural. To some it is. To others, it is a big complicated mess. What I mean by communication is working on your "non-sexual" relationship. Establish total trust in others ways and then just ease into the other discussions as they come up. It took me a long time to break down my wife's barriers (mostly out of my own ignorance about what was needed). Any time we talked about sex, she thought I was blaming her for our average sex life (and in some ways I was I suppose). Once we figured out how to talk to each other, it all evened out, and now we can discuss anything.
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