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Originally Posted by drewpy
Anyhow, I think you are very mature for recognizing the significant impact sex drive compatibilty can have in a relationship.
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Just to note: The average American couple has sex at least twice a week.
I agree 100% with drewpy here, sex drive compatibility is very important for long term happiness together.
Try some of the solutions that others have listed above, aka, get her off her BC and try your Best together to fix this issue . . . obviously, she wants to fix it too.
However I'm going to be the straightfoward one here:
IF after you try these solutions and you find your sex drives are STILL not compatible to this large degree, i wouldn't recommend you stay together in a long term relationship.
I know several people in pretty much sexless marriages, and having sex twice a month is basically a sexless relationship.
Living in a sexless relationship (or marriage) is horrible and eventually it causes Huge problems, because if you're truly not sexually compatible (i'm not talking cause she's on BC, because you can fix that, i mean if you are REALLY actually not compatible at all), there is nothing you can do to fix that and eventually, your relationship will suffer from the lack of passion and intimacy, which, while not everything in a relationship is integral to happiness together.
just putting it out there, i'm not trying to be harsh or anything, but so many people think that they can just work around the very infrequent sex issue and they just can't . . .. people need sexual intimacy and if you have a high sex drive, there is a woman out there that can match you. I know this because i have a very high sex drive, i enjoy and need it 6-7 days a week, i match my husband's sex drive perfectly, but if he wasn't a sexual person like me and we weren't compatible, then we probably couldn' be together and happy, because that sexual passion is important to me and him. So, please don't feel bad that you have a high sex drive, embrace it and be proud of it. Don't feel guilty about it . . . it's great to have a high sex drive, and don't let anyone tell you any different.
Peace, Hope you find a solution!
Sweetpea