I appreciate everyone's advice - but I don't think it has anything to do with foreplay. When we do have sex, she is very much into it and has quite a bit of fun - it's just that we seldom actually have sex.
I have considered just waiting for her to initiate it, but I think if I were to do that I may not have sex for the rest of my life
I just wish that there was some magical answer to fix this, although I realize that's just wishful thinking...
As far as I know, she would not feel comfortable going on any type of birth control where she actually has to actively take it, like the pill. We both feel safest using "automatic" b/c methods, like the shot, patch, ect.
I don't think I would feel comfortable relying only on a condom again - too risky at this point in our lives. To be honest, judging on the previously mentioned ability to take a pill on a regular basis, I too would prefer that she stay away from anything that she can forget to take...