dirtyrascal7

from what i can tell, it sounds like she was thinking about leaving well before meeting this other guy and decided there was no chance of saving the relationship well before breaking up with you. it sucks that she didn't have the balls to admit either of these and let you go on wasting your time and effort trying to win her back.

frankly, i think she's using this guy as an easy escape route... focusing on him makes it easier for her to feel better about dumping you and all that you've shared. i doubt it will work out between them... it's highly unlikely that they want the same things in life at this point, so even if there is some type of attraction/connection, it won't be enough to hold them together very long.

if i were you, i'd try to get over this girl and move on as quickly as possible. it will be tough and it will take time, but it's not an impossible task. the sooner you realize that you can make it without her, the better off you'll be. that way, if she does come crawling back, you you won't be as emotionally suffocated and can make a better choice. you need to realize that if you do get back together, like bunnybear's situation, things will never be the same between the two of you despite how much you'd like things to be like they were before all this happened.

one more thing... don't blame yourself for this or think that anything is wrong with you. sometimes people grow apart, even after being together for such a long time. it's nothing to feel bad about... especially since you were able to get out before, like you said, something big happened.

good luck and keep us updated!