innovis

Well, shes been on the pill almost as long as I've known her. We met last Jan, and she lived 2 hours away (met through a friend) and we'd see each other every 3 weeks. We'd fool around pretty much every day she was here. She got on the pill in early April, we had sex for the first time(I was 19, she was 18) late April before her pill started to take effect (we did it with a condom). We continued to see each other about every 3 weeks, but eventually she didn't want it anymore, like at all. She moved over here in August, and we basically do it 2-4 times a week, although sometimes alot less, but never much more.

Now she says sometimes she "wants it" but she shows no physical(no lubrication at all, and aren't women's genetalia supposed to show some signs of arousal?) or behavioral characteristics(she doesn't attempt to initiate it, she doesn't act like *she wants it* even while we are doing it). I asked her if she ever fantasizes and she says no, she really doesn't think about sex. She doesn't masturbate. She is capable of enjoying sex when its happening, and orgasms often, but like I said, she never initiates it or seems to want it.

In the past, she did masturbate occasionally, actually I remember it happening a couple times a week. Now that we're having sex, I guess she feels like she doesn't need to masturbate, although she doesn't do it when she goes home, and she only did it 1 time over the entire Christmas break (thats the last time she has done it, to my knowledge, and she said the orgasm was a joke it was so bad).

At any rate, I can't quantify how different her sex drive has been over the progression of a year of taking the pill, but between not fantasizing, not wanting it, and basically being disinterested in sex despite the fact that she enjoys it and orgasms are cause for concern right?