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alicat · 03-16-2005, 08:04 PM

Cynthetiq: Sorry if I read too much into your post. Now I understand where you're coming from and agree quite alot with what you said. I too (and probably the majority of people) could do without the stress that has become all too prescent during Christmas. I still very much love the whole "X-masy" feel of the season but hate the feeling of having to find presents for everyone on your "list".

My parents have been divorced for many years. My Dad is here on the west coast of Michigan with us but my Mom and In-laws are on the other side of the state. Every year brings the "who did we spend last X-mas with?" conversation out again. And therefore the guilt over which family members we aren't going to spend the holiday with this year.

Even though practically no one sees it, I love to decorate, and our house always looks like someone pucked Christmas all over it. Still, Hubby and I would most years than not be perfectly content to spend that time of year holed up in our festive home without dealing with the "stress" of our families and traveling.

Hope I'm not too off topic here, it's kinda to do with "home". A curious thing: For the first 8 yrs. or so of our 16 yrs. together, I was religious about sending out X-mas cards. Then life got in the way and I was either way late or didn't get around to it (not for silly reasons either, it was deaths (of family members or pets) or moves (too many to count) or other serious reasons (illnesses)). The amount of cards we receive at X-mas has dwindled in relation to the amount of years we haven't been able to send them consistantly (meaning we've sent them in a few yrs. where things were relativly calm). Do people wait to see who they get cards from and then only send them back to those people? It seems like another rather stingy, rude and (possibly) commercial based thing for people to ration out who they send cards to based on who they receive them from. We no longer need the card holder we have because we are down to getting about 6 cards a year, which leaves out a whole lot of our immediate family. Strange.

Ali

03-16-2005, 08:04 PM	#32 (permalink)
alicat Baffled Location: West Michigan	Cynthetiq: Sorry if I read too much into your post. Now I understand where you're coming from and agree quite alot with what you said. I too (and probably the majority of people) could do without the stress that has become all too prescent during Christmas. I still very much love the whole "X-masy" feel of the season but hate the feeling of having to find presents for everyone on your "list". My parents have been divorced for many years. My Dad is here on the west coast of Michigan with us but my Mom and In-laws are on the other side of the state. Every year brings the "who did we spend last X-mas with?" conversation out again. And therefore the guilt over which family members we aren't going to spend the holiday with this year. Even though practically no one sees it, I love to decorate, and our house always looks like someone pucked Christmas all over it. Still, Hubby and I would most years than not be perfectly content to spend that time of year holed up in our festive home without dealing with the "stress" of our families and traveling. Hope I'm not too off topic here, it's kinda to do with "home". A curious thing: For the first 8 yrs. or so of our 16 yrs. together, I was religious about sending out X-mas cards. Then life got in the way and I was either way late or didn't get around to it (not for silly reasons either, it was deaths (of family members or pets) or moves (too many to count) or other serious reasons (illnesses)). The amount of cards we receive at X-mas has dwindled in relation to the amount of years we haven't been able to send them consistantly (meaning we've sent them in a few yrs. where things were relativly calm). Do people wait to see who they get cards from and then only send them back to those people? It seems like another rather stingy, rude and (possibly) commercial based thing for people to ration out who they send cards to based on who they receive them from. We no longer need the card holder we have because we are down to getting about 6 cards a year, which leaves out a whole lot of our immediate family. Strange. Ali __________________ 'Beware the Jabberwock, my son! The jaws that bite, the claws that catch! Beware the Jubjub bird, and shun, The frumious Bandersnatch!'--Jabberwocky, Lewis Carroll "You cannot do a kindness too soon because you never know how soon it will be too late."--Ralph Waldo Emerson