Originally Posted by lurkette

I don't mean to jump on you, but I'm getting a little tired of this "women don't like nice guys" crap. And don't go blaming the female population because the women you have pursued didn't want a relationship for whatever reason. I didn't kill off anything, thank you very much. I happen to be married to a "nice guy" and I like him that way.

I'm not saying this applies to you because I don't know your situation, but half the time a "nice guy" is really just a dishrag who tries to be what he thinks a woman wants instead of just being himself and asking for what HE wants. Or he's a horndog who thinks he can get into women's pants by being their friend. The other half of the time, men throw themselves after unsuitable women and then when it doesn't work out they blame it on the woman for not wanting a "nice guy." Sorry, it's not that they don't want a nice guy, it's that they don't want YOU. (Women totally do the same thing, by the way - throw themselves after men who are completely wrong for what they really want and then bitch about men when it doesn't work out.)

If all you want is to get laid, being a nice guy isn't going to get you there. If you want a relationship that's going to last, be yourself and go hunting for someone who appreciates that. If you want to have a happy life, quit waiting for someone else to fulfill you and go live your life like you don't give a damn.

Also, go read this thread: http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/showthread.php?t=73197