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sexymama · 03-13-2005, 05:46 PM

Reanna -- good for you! You stuck to your guns and it worked!

Shakran, although your intentions are good, and generally I agree with what you say, 10 minutes of time out for a four year old is way too long. A general time out rule is 1 minute for every year of age with a max. of 5 minutes.

My stories: When my ex and I first got married, my then 10-year-old step son demanded that I make him a different dinner as he didn't like the one being served. I said, "no problem," got up, took his plate and washed the food down the disposal. I then sat down to eat. He asked where his meal was. I replied, "I cook again at breakfast time." He was very upset, "what should I eat, I'll starve!" I said, "I understand, I get hungry when I choose not to eat dinner too -- but breakfast is only 9 hours away. I'm sure you'll be fine until then." He always ate what was served after that.

My daughters have each had the same treatment. One time of seeing the food washed down the drain was enough for each. Once in awhile I still have to get up to take their plate -- but it takes just me pushing my chair back and they aplogize for complaining then eat what was served.

03-13-2005, 05:46 PM	#17 (permalink)
sexymama My own person -- his by choice Location: Lebell's arms	Reanna -- good for you! You stuck to your guns and it worked! Shakran, although your intentions are good, and generally I agree with what you say, 10 minutes of time out for a four year old is way too long. A general time out rule is 1 minute for every year of age with a max. of 5 minutes. My stories: When my ex and I first got married, my then 10-year-old step son demanded that I make him a different dinner as he didn't like the one being served. I said, "no problem," got up, took his plate and washed the food down the disposal. I then sat down to eat. He asked where his meal was. I replied, "I cook again at breakfast time." He was very upset, "what should I eat, I'll starve!" I said, "I understand, I get hungry when I choose not to eat dinner too -- but breakfast is only 9 hours away. I'm sure you'll be fine until then." He always ate what was served after that. My daughters have each had the same treatment. One time of seeing the food washed down the drain was enough for each. Once in awhile I still have to get up to take their plate -- but it takes just me pushing my chair back and they aplogize for complaining then eat what was served. __________________ If you can go deeply into lovemaking, the ego disappears. That is the beauty of lovemaking, that it is another source of a glimpse of god It's not about being perfect; it's about developing some skill at managing imperfection.