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fatboss · 03-10-2005, 05:13 AM

I hope someone out there can help me with this. I know I've come to the right place. Please bear with me whilst I get this off my chest.

I work in a male dominant industry, so the only female contact I get on a daily basis are the girls that work on the front desk or maybe in accounts. There are women who work 'under' me, but the Print Industry and good looking women don't go hand-in-hand.

Me being a bloke, I work on the 'look but don't touch' theory. I am very happily married with 2 boys that are 100 times more handsome than their Dad (have you seen my Avatar?) and up to now I've not had a problem just looking and using my imagination. You know what I mean right?

That is up until now. We have a woman that has recently joined us who works in the Front Office. Let's call her Betty to protect the innocent! Betty is 4 years younger than me (I'm 39 this year), she's happily married also with 2 step daughters. I wouldn't say that she is Supermodel material, but you know when you find somebody ball-achingly attractive they don't need to be? Betty is just like that. She's slim, attractive and she has a cleavage I could fall into and die happy! She likes to wear tight-fitting clothes, much to the annoyance of the old hag who works in the office with her! Most days she wears glasses, but some days she wears contacts and I swear I can't concentrate on what I'm doing! I think about her on the way to work, hoping that I can get just 5 minutes to talk to her alone. She is very comfortable in the company of men, I can tell that. But when I try to talk to her I feel like I'm 14 years old and do that stupid nervous laugh. That's how much she affects me, Gaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhh! Ive ended up sitting next to her at 2 works functions, but I feel like all eyes are on us, waiting to get it over with and pounce on each other.

Forgive my brutal honesty, but I would drag her off to the store cupboard and do her some serious damage right now if I knew I could. We flirt like mad with e-mails of a slightly suggestive nature, but again I think the suggestiveness is all in my head and Betty is blisfully unaware of how she is so in my head all the time.

So my question (finally!) to my tfp friends is simple. Do I tell her how she makes me feel, just so that I can be honest with her and hope that she respects my honesty, or do I spend the rest of my days here quietly going mad with lust. If I told her all this on my last day here (I'm looking for new opportunities elsewhere) and she feels the same way, I would probably kick myself.

Do I need to grow up and get on with my life, or do I grab the bull by the horns, so to speak and get busy as is the right of all men in a position of power?

Many Thanks for listening and I really would appreciate any help no matter how trivial you think the advice is.

LATEST - As I'm typing the last bit of this she bursts into my office looking like she's about to cry! The old hag in the office has been giving her grief and she'd had enough. I told her that if she wants to escape any time she can come and hide in my office. WHAT AM I DOING ??????

03-10-2005, 05:13 AM	#1 (permalink)
fatboss Addict Location: Liverpool, UK	Never had this feeling before I hope someone out there can help me with this. I know I've come to the right place. Please bear with me whilst I get this off my chest. I work in a male dominant industry, so the only female contact I get on a daily basis are the girls that work on the front desk or maybe in accounts. There are women who work 'under' me, but the Print Industry and good looking women don't go hand-in-hand. Me being a bloke, I work on the 'look but don't touch' theory. I am very happily married with 2 boys that are 100 times more handsome than their Dad (have you seen my Avatar?) and up to now I've not had a problem just looking and using my imagination. You know what I mean right? That is up until now. We have a woman that has recently joined us who works in the Front Office. Let's call her Betty to protect the innocent! Betty is 4 years younger than me (I'm 39 this year), she's happily married also with 2 step daughters. I wouldn't say that she is Supermodel material, but you know when you find somebody ball-achingly attractive they don't need to be? Betty is just like that. She's slim, attractive and she has a cleavage I could fall into and die happy! She likes to wear tight-fitting clothes, much to the annoyance of the old hag who works in the office with her! Most days she wears glasses, but some days she wears contacts and I swear I can't concentrate on what I'm doing! I think about her on the way to work, hoping that I can get just 5 minutes to talk to her alone. She is very comfortable in the company of men, I can tell that. But when I try to talk to her I feel like I'm 14 years old and do that stupid nervous laugh. That's how much she affects me, Gaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhh! Ive ended up sitting next to her at 2 works functions, but I feel like all eyes are on us, waiting to get it over with and pounce on each other. Forgive my brutal honesty, but I would drag her off to the store cupboard and do her some serious damage right now if I knew I could. We flirt like mad with e-mails of a slightly suggestive nature, but again I think the suggestiveness is all in my head and Betty is blisfully unaware of how she is so in my head all the time. So my question (finally!) to my tfp friends is simple. Do I tell her how she makes me feel, just so that I can be honest with her and hope that she respects my honesty, or do I spend the rest of my days here quietly going mad with lust. If I told her all this on my last day here (I'm looking for new opportunities elsewhere) and she feels the same way, I would probably kick myself. Do I need to grow up and get on with my life, or do I grab the bull by the horns, so to speak and get busy as is the right of all men in a position of power? Many Thanks for listening and I really would appreciate any help no matter how trivial you think the advice is. LATEST - As I'm typing the last bit of this she bursts into my office looking like she's about to cry! The old hag in the office has been giving her grief and she'd had enough. I told her that if she wants to escape any time she can come and hide in my office. WHAT AM I DOING ?????? __________________ "never mind that shit........here comes Mongo!" Last edited by fatboss; 03-10-2005 at 05:44 AM..