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03-10-2005, 04:50 AM

well first of all i don't think that similar interests should really define what makes people compatible. that's the reason you shouldnt marry someone who's like you, it doesn't mean you're the same if you do the same things... if you married someone with different interests it'd probably just be more likely to work because it wasn't boring? and anyways opposites attracting is a property of some scientific based thing, that doesn't mean it goes for peoples personalities too? yeah sure, sometimes people look for lovers who are everything that person could never be, but that's just a personal preference... being in love doesnt mean anything more than loving something about a person just like you would love something about a movie or a dessert, it's not a different kind of magical thing or something... if you love something about someone, then you love something about someone, and if you are compatible enough with eacohther to feel comfortable enough to say "let's get married" then why would you even re-concider it? i think marriaged just end up not working because people feel obliged to stay with eachother after they're married. it's like if you were planning on staying home all day and watching a simpsons marathon, and then someone tried to tell you that you couldn't change the channel, you'd probably want to change the channel. what does getting married even mean besides you can't date other people? it's rediculous. it's rediculous that anyone would want to date two people at once, or that romantic social interactions should be based on "dates" in the first place: why can't males and females seeking romantic relationships just be like friends? why does it have to be this weird game with weird rules and why do people try so hard to read into all of it? if you can talk with someone on a deep level and you feel comfortable around someone and you understand eachother and you're willing to be there for eachother and you don't get in the way of eachothers interests then you are compatible to be married. personal interests or activities shouldn't have anything to do with it.

03-10-2005, 04:50 AM	#12 (permalink)
kitsune Guest	well first of all i don't think that similar interests should really define what makes people compatible. that's the reason you shouldnt marry someone who's like you, it doesn't mean you're the same if you do the same things... if you married someone with different interests it'd probably just be more likely to work because it wasn't boring? and anyways opposites attracting is a property of some scientific based thing, that doesn't mean it goes for peoples personalities too? yeah sure, sometimes people look for lovers who are everything that person could never be, but that's just a personal preference... being in love doesnt mean anything more than loving something about a person just like you would love something about a movie or a dessert, it's not a different kind of magical thing or something... if you love something about someone, then you love something about someone, and if you are compatible enough with eacohther to feel comfortable enough to say "let's get married" then why would you even re-concider it? i think marriaged just end up not working because people feel obliged to stay with eachother after they're married. it's like if you were planning on staying home all day and watching a simpsons marathon, and then someone tried to tell you that you couldn't change the channel, you'd probably want to change the channel. what does getting married even mean besides you can't date other people? it's rediculous. it's rediculous that anyone would want to date two people at once, or that romantic social interactions should be based on "dates" in the first place: why can't males and females seeking romantic relationships just be like friends? why does it have to be this weird game with weird rules and why do people try so hard to read into all of it? if you can talk with someone on a deep level and you feel comfortable around someone and you understand eachother and you're willing to be there for eachother and you don't get in the way of eachothers interests then you are compatible to be married. personal interests or activities shouldn't have anything to do with it.