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BigDonkey2 · 03-09-2005, 04:29 PM

I have had previous threads on here about my gf being in France (http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/showthread.php?t=74726 and http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/showthread.php?t=69890). She went to Marseille for the Fall semester and decided to go back to Paris this Spring. Things last semester were really shitty and we were not good to each other, but somehow managed to get by. I thought we were doing ok so far this Spring but things have kind of come to a halt in our relationship.

She has kind of been pissed at me for the past 2 weeks because I said something to hurt her feelings and then tried to forget about it. She was more pissed that I just played it off like it didn't happen. I just wanted to let it go and not focus on it because then it would just piss her off even more. I didn't really think it was a big deal but apparently she did. It seems like every little thing I do right now pisses her off. I talked to her today and the conversation went from pretty good to a stand still. She told me that she cried for like an hour just about me and I don't even know why. She said that she has felt a big distance between us and that she doesn't like it, which I agree with, but it doesn't seem like we can do anything to fix it. Then she puts everything on me asking me what I want, asking if I want to be with her or if we should break up and cut our losses. I wrote to her in an email last week that I needed some time to myself to think, which I don't even know why I wrote. I think I'm really confused as to how I feel about her and what to do. I think that some of my feelings for her have faded away, which I don't want to happen but can't seem to help. I think not being able to be physical with her has taken an unnoticed effect on me. Our conversations on the phone are now bland and boring and it doesn't seem like they're going to get any better. After I told her I wanted to go today I said I would call her either tomorrow or the following day and she told me not to and that she would call me when she was ready. I think she doesn't know what she wants right now. She thinks she does but I really don't think she knows, as do I. I told her to really think about what she wants and then let me know. She likes being over there in France, and I can't help but think there is something she hasn't told me, which I hope isn't true, especially after last semester. She takes everything I say to literally and it upsets her and there's nothing I can do to fix it, which is really frustrating. She said that she loves me so much that everything little thing just upsets her because she gets so damn emotional and loves me so much, which I guess is just the way she is. She also told me that she is really emotionally drained and that if I wanted to breakup with her that she wouldn't argue a reason not to. I don't understand this. I guess we're just both confused.

I guess I'm just frustrated and confused with what's going on between us right now and I really don't know what to do. Time on the phone is limited because of calling cards and all. It gets pretty expensive. Our only other option is email, which we have been doing. Are we only delaying the inevitable? Should I just cut my losses now and move on? I really do love her (my first love) but I just don't know what to do right now. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.

-BigD

EDIT: Should I just wait until she gets back and see how we feel?

P.S. We've been together for 1.5 years and I'm 20 and shes 21.
P.P.S. She comes back in mid May and lives 5 hours away from me, so its kind of been a LDR for the past year. She comes back to school in the fall.

03-09-2005, 04:29 PM	#1 (permalink)
BigDonkey2 Insane Location: California	Possible breakup I have had previous threads on here about my gf being in France (http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/showthread.php?t=74726 and http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/showthread.php?t=69890). She went to Marseille for the Fall semester and decided to go back to Paris this Spring. Things last semester were really shitty and we were not good to each other, but somehow managed to get by. I thought we were doing ok so far this Spring but things have kind of come to a halt in our relationship. She has kind of been pissed at me for the past 2 weeks because I said something to hurt her feelings and then tried to forget about it. She was more pissed that I just played it off like it didn't happen. I just wanted to let it go and not focus on it because then it would just piss her off even more. I didn't really think it was a big deal but apparently she did. It seems like every little thing I do right now pisses her off. I talked to her today and the conversation went from pretty good to a stand still. She told me that she cried for like an hour just about me and I don't even know why. She said that she has felt a big distance between us and that she doesn't like it, which I agree with, but it doesn't seem like we can do anything to fix it. Then she puts everything on me asking me what I want, asking if I want to be with her or if we should break up and cut our losses. I wrote to her in an email last week that I needed some time to myself to think, which I don't even know why I wrote. I think I'm really confused as to how I feel about her and what to do. I think that some of my feelings for her have faded away, which I don't want to happen but can't seem to help. I think not being able to be physical with her has taken an unnoticed effect on me. Our conversations on the phone are now bland and boring and it doesn't seem like they're going to get any better. After I told her I wanted to go today I said I would call her either tomorrow or the following day and she told me not to and that she would call me when she was ready. I think she doesn't know what she wants right now. She thinks she does but I really don't think she knows, as do I. I told her to really think about what she wants and then let me know. She likes being over there in France, and I can't help but think there is something she hasn't told me, which I hope isn't true, especially after last semester. She takes everything I say to literally and it upsets her and there's nothing I can do to fix it, which is really frustrating. She said that she loves me so much that everything little thing just upsets her because she gets so damn emotional and loves me so much, which I guess is just the way she is. She also told me that she is really emotionally drained and that if I wanted to breakup with her that she wouldn't argue a reason not to. I don't understand this. I guess we're just both confused. I guess I'm just frustrated and confused with what's going on between us right now and I really don't know what to do. Time on the phone is limited because of calling cards and all. It gets pretty expensive. Our only other option is email, which we have been doing. Are we only delaying the inevitable? Should I just cut my losses now and move on? I really do love her (my first love) but I just don't know what to do right now. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks. -BigD EDIT: Should I just wait until she gets back and see how we feel? P.S. We've been together for 1.5 years and I'm 20 and shes 21. P.P.S. She comes back in mid May and lives 5 hours away from me, so its kind of been a LDR for the past year. She comes back to school in the fall. Last edited by BigDonkey2; 03-09-2005 at 04:47 PM..