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raeanna74 · 03-08-2005, 01:26 PM

I actually came from a very conservative family and so did hubby. We were each other's first so we were both amatures which I think helped. My Mom was very open talking about sex and other things so I wasn't a stranger to what to expect. Mom had even gone so far as to talk to me about pleasuring myself and give me tips and such. I had masterbated for years before I had finally actually had sex. I had not seen even a lot of pictures of penises since porn was completely forbidden in our home and at my college as well. The nearest I ever got were drawings in sex ed. When I actually saw my first penis I must admit I was a little surprised and maybe in aw. It was very different in reality than I had pictured. I doubt I had an "animal response" to it. It was more curiousity than anything I think. Hubby and I had a lot of oral and fingering and touching each other over a course of time before we finally had sex. That familiarity combined with my own familiarity with my own body from playing with myself helped me feel comfortable with the whole thing and especially his body.

Your response seems completely NORMAL to me. His comment shows a lack of experience, naivety and maybe even a touch of insecurity on his part. He's probably seen porn where the girl looks hungrily at the guy and he expects that to be the norm. If he is willing to talk about things you can explain to him that your response was more curiosity and unfamiliarity than anything and that you are certain that once you become more comfortable with your own physical body and with his that you're will probably be much more enthusiastic.

In the meantime - have you two tried phone sex?? Have you played with yourself? Those are two ways when there's a lot of distance between you to get familiar with yourself and with each other.

Good Luck.

03-08-2005, 01:26 PM	#7 (permalink)
raeanna74 I'm not a blonde! I'm knot! I'm knot! I'm knot! Location: Upper Michigan	I actually came from a very conservative family and so did hubby. We were each other's first so we were both amatures which I think helped. My Mom was very open talking about sex and other things so I wasn't a stranger to what to expect. Mom had even gone so far as to talk to me about pleasuring myself and give me tips and such. I had masterbated for years before I had finally actually had sex. I had not seen even a lot of pictures of penises since porn was completely forbidden in our home and at my college as well. The nearest I ever got were drawings in sex ed. When I actually saw my first penis I must admit I was a little surprised and maybe in aw. It was very different in reality than I had pictured. I doubt I had an "animal response" to it. It was more curiousity than anything I think. Hubby and I had a lot of oral and fingering and touching each other over a course of time before we finally had sex. That familiarity combined with my own familiarity with my own body from playing with myself helped me feel comfortable with the whole thing and especially his body. Your response seems completely NORMAL to me. His comment shows a lack of experience, naivety and maybe even a touch of insecurity on his part. He's probably seen porn where the girl looks hungrily at the guy and he expects that to be the norm. If he is willing to talk about things you can explain to him that your response was more curiosity and unfamiliarity than anything and that you are certain that once you become more comfortable with your own physical body and with his that you're will probably be much more enthusiastic. In the meantime - have you two tried phone sex?? Have you played with yourself? Those are two ways when there's a lot of distance between you to get familiar with yourself and with each other. Good Luck. __________________ "Always learn the rules so that you can break them properly." Dalai Lama My Karma just ran over your Dogma.