maleficent

I'm trying not to sound mean here, and I really don't intend for it to come out that way - -but there's really only one way I can say this.

This sounds like such an unhealthy relationship. His sexual hangups are having an negative effect on you. You are correct, that it's up to you to get yourself better, and with his hangups, it sounds like that's not going to happen because it's created so many doubts in your head.

Do you want to be with him because after two years, he hasn't pushed you into anything, and isn't making any demands on you? What positive things are you getting out of this relationship and where do you see it going?

Do you know if he's actually had healthy sexual relationships with other women. Does he have any erectile dysfunction issues? Sometimes a man can ejaculate masturbating, but will have a tough time maintaining an erection with a woman, and it might be easier to make excuses (don't want to make a mess) than to actually face the problem. (Condoms could contain the mess)

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