no problem, I suspect that many ladies out there have this same problem. I'm hoping for some more ladies to come forward and give us their views on this...and help. Has anyone successfully overcome their lack of assertiveness in sex? I'd love to know, gives me incentive!
BTW, last night I was able to initiate sex and it was great. I felt awkward but once I got over that I forgot about being scared...he gave me a huge grin when I did, as if he wasn't quite expecting it...made it really worthwhile! 
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Whether we write or speak or do but look
We are ever unapparent. What we are
Cannot be transfused into word or book.
Our soul from us is infinitely far.
However much we give our thoughts the will
To be our soul and gesture it abroad,
Our hearts are incommunicable still.
In what we show ourselves we are ignored.
The abyss from soul to soul cannot be bridged
By any skill of thought or trick of seeming.
Unto our very selves we are abridged
When we would utter to our thought our being.
We are our dreams of ourselves, souls by gleams,
And each to each other dreams of others' dreams.
Fernando Pessoa, 1918
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