well i think we're all "attention whores" to some degree. i can relate about being needy. it's a different kind of high maintenance. I agree with SiN, it has to come from within you. I can really relate to this right now actually because my boyfriend and I have been dating for 14 months and I'm in a bit of a personal rut. Try reflecting and asking questions about yourself more. What do you want in life? Make a "mission statement" of your goals (personal and/or professional) and try not to lose purpose or perspective.
about the pictures thing: I think women naturally take more pictures than men. It's just one of our quirks.
I'm sure he appreciates all your pictures and feels that he doesn't need to take them when you're the one with the most interest. And why should taking them feel like work? They should be fun! Maybe you could make it funner by suggesting you take pictures together. Let him photograph you while you play dress up... or dress down. I think it's fun to take pictures together during intimate moments.. Something you can keep between only the two of you.. Something private and special. This works better if you have a digital camera.