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Gilda · 03-01-2005, 09:37 PM

I've had some pretty dark times growing up, and here's something I was taught that helped me: positive visualization. When you're confronted with a difficult new situation, if you have time, stop and visualize a positive outcome.

Let's say it's asking a girl out on a date. Close your eyes and picture yourself asking her out. You're confident, at ease, you speak clearly and assertively. You're charming, and she says yes.

Now lets try visualizing a rejection. Picture yourself asking her out. You're confident, at ease, you speak clearly and with authority, and she says no. But you take it in stride, you're not upset, and you continue on with your day unhindered by things not quite going your way.

Now you've imagined the two most likely outcomes, and the worse one isn't bad at all. You can proceed without fear of failure because failing isn't a bad thing, but suceeding would be a great thing.

03-01-2005, 09:37 PM	#6 (permalink)
Gilda 32 flavors and then some Location: Out on a wire.	I've had some pretty dark times growing up, and here's something I was taught that helped me: positive visualization. When you're confronted with a difficult new situation, if you have time, stop and visualize a positive outcome. Let's say it's asking a girl out on a date. Close your eyes and picture yourself asking her out. You're confident, at ease, you speak clearly and assertively. You're charming, and she says yes. Now lets try visualizing a rejection. Picture yourself asking her out. You're confident, at ease, you speak clearly and with authority, and she says no. But you take it in stride, you're not upset, and you continue on with your day unhindered by things not quite going your way. Now you've imagined the two most likely outcomes, and the worse one isn't bad at all. You can proceed without fear of failure because failing isn't a bad thing, but suceeding would be a great thing.