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FaderMonkey · 02-23-2005, 11:01 AM

So, I've been dating my girlfriend for about 7 months. It's a long distance relationship. She goes to school in Nebraska and I live in Florida. We've managed to visit each other about every other month. Anyway...I'm at a point now that I realize, or at least I think I realize, that I've been lying to myself about the relationsip. I tell her that I love her, but I don't know that I'm really in love with her and don't know that I really ever have been. We have a very sexual relationship and I think for me that maybe that's all it really is. The sex is fantastic, but I'm afraid that's all it is for me.

So, I'm having thoughts that I'm going to breakup with her, but I'm honestly so frightened to do it. I don't think she'll take it well...I'll end up doing it over the phone and not in person...her birthday is in two days...she also already has plane tickets to come visit me in March for her spring break...I don't think she'll expect it at all. All of my friends tell me that I should do what will make me happy even if it is going to hurt her at first. I know they are right, but I'm still scared.

Anyone ever been in a situation somewhat like this.? Any advice?

02-23-2005, 11:01 AM	#1 (permalink)
FaderMonkey Psycho Location: Orlando, FL	I do and don't want to breakup So, I've been dating my girlfriend for about 7 months. It's a long distance relationship. She goes to school in Nebraska and I live in Florida. We've managed to visit each other about every other month. Anyway...I'm at a point now that I realize, or at least I think I realize, that I've been lying to myself about the relationsip. I tell her that I love her, but I don't know that I'm really in love with her and don't know that I really ever have been. We have a very sexual relationship and I think for me that maybe that's all it really is. The sex is fantastic, but I'm afraid that's all it is for me. So, I'm having thoughts that I'm going to breakup with her, but I'm honestly so frightened to do it. I don't think she'll take it well...I'll end up doing it over the phone and not in person...her birthday is in two days...she also already has plane tickets to come visit me in March for her spring break...I don't think she'll expect it at all. All of my friends tell me that I should do what will make me happy even if it is going to hurt her at first. I know they are right, but I'm still scared. Anyone ever been in a situation somewhat like this.? Any advice?