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Originally Posted by TheWalkinDude
And the plot thickens. It seems she was going out with this other guy long before dumping me. There's no point to this post, just venting a little. Posting on this site always eases my mind.
Anyone out there ever been cheated on by someone they were completely in love with?
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yep, it happens to the best of us. Some things for you to concentrate on during this.
1) Never, ever, blame yourself. Don't sit around and think 'why did she do this' or 'how could she do this'. This will only perpetuate the downward spiral to depression.
2) To avoid that downward spiral, go ahead and grieve a bit. You gave your heart to someone who then disrespected a great gift. Let out the hurt and then go on with life. It's not easy, mind you, but there it is.
3) The surest way to make yourself seem desirable to your ex is to be seen with another woman......and quickly. Now, by this I don't mean go out there and USE another woman to try to get her back into your life. What I AM saying is that if you have a female friend who is willing to play the game with you, ask her to. Show up in unexpected places where the ex can see you with her. But above all, use this NOT to get the ex back in to your life, but to get back at her. Show her that you've accepted the fact that she behaved entirely in an infantile way with your emotions and that you've gotten over your folly in giving your heart to someone as undeserving as her.
NEVER, EVER, let her think that she is responsible for breaking your heart, but that you were responsible for trusting someone that wasn't worthy of that trust.