Really need advice, reached the end of my rope
Okay let's make a long story short. I had a girlfriend who I loved and who loved me, we went to different colleges in the fall, we grew apart (I thought this was the problem), She was the one to swing the axe on us. Now this isn't the problem, I've dealt with the breaking up well I'd say.
But I still love her, can't really help caring about her even with everything that has happened, I'll just say that it wouldn't be the right thing for us to get back together. But I still love her and care about her, and this is what puts me in this position.
After we broke up I learned about this weak side of her, that she never revealed before, Now I could tell she had it in her, but she covered it up well and I could never crack it. She has a total lack of confidence in herself, depends on people to love her to make her feel her own worth. Now that we are broken up, she has taken just a terrible turn she dealt with it hard and feels guilty, and unloved, and horrible.
Now usualy I'd butt out of her life and let her get over these things herself because my presence makes it harder, and I would if it weren't for one thing. She has told me that she has thought about hurting herself, and not just recently but before when she was really low, before we met. I tried to get her to talk to a professional but she keeps telling me that she doesn't want to. I know she's a smart girl and that she knows that she should, but I know she's prob scared to admit she has a problem. She just accepts that she is broken and cannot be fixed.
Now I just don't know what to do,I've done all I can to reassure her that she is a good person. but she just doesnt believe me, she thinks its impossible for me to still care about her and love her if we arn't together, and basicly my words mean nothing. I'm just really concerned about her. And I can't leave her alone.
I'm just a few steps away from talking to her family, but I don't want to cross that line just yet. Because I know there was a time where I considered harming myself, but it only lasted a couple days and I got over it and it hasnt bothered me since, but I would have surely been offended if I got blown up to be a major psycho. So I just don't know what to do.
Last edited by MEAD; 02-20-2005 at 12:43 PM..
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