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I think what matters most is whether your personality types are compatible. Shared interests probably are an indicator that your underlying personalities are at least somewhat similar, but are not sufficient in themselves to make a good relationship.
ratbastid and I are very different in a lot of ways - he's more easy-going, I'm more anxious; I'm motivated and like to plan, he likes to relax and just let things happen; he gets energy from being around other people, I need some solitude to recharge. The important thing is that we respect each other's differences and see the value of how the other person works. When we're both in go-getter busy mode, we hardly see each other and it's very draining. If we were both laid back and didn't like to plan stuff, we'd end up sitting on the couch watching a week's worth of Tivo'ed shows. You put us together and we balance each other out. Our primary interests aren't the same, but we have enough other stuff in common (movies, music, food tastes, etc.) that we find stuff to do together, but those things aren't what keep our relationship working.
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