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Originally Posted by Suave
First of all, getting a job and getting out (effectively running away from your problems) is NOT the first and best option. The first and best option is discussing it with your parents in a mature fashion.
Secondly, parents don't necessarily treat their children like adults just because the children act like adults. Many times, the curfews, etc, are in place purely out of emotional security issues the parents have.
Thirdly, saying that your parents don't owe you anything is a bit much. They brought you into this world, and while you should be thankful for what they do give you, it is also, in my opinion, their responsibility to provide for you and try to give you the best start on life they can.
I do agree with the comment that parents are doing their best however, despite what might be seen as mishaps or screwups. They think it's best, so don't fault them for it in that regard.
I just had to make this post because of how strongly I disagreed with the majority of your statements. Not trying to bust your balls or anything, we just happen to have a difference of opinion.  |
ahhhhh... uh uh naa. I can't agree with you. I've got to swing towards cynth's stance. While the points that you put forward are preferable (from a feel-good perspective) they are not absolute. While it would be nice to be able to dialogue or negotiate with your parents in this manner, the harsh reality is, that everything stated earlier is what will happen when all other options are expended.
I had to side with my nephew's friends mother yesterday. his friend was upset when her mother was suspicious about her use of MSN. She got annoyed and minimized the chat window. My nephew and his friend had a very strong and angry reaction to this 'uber-kontrol' by her mother. I simply asked my nephew: 'who's computer is it?' End of story. while he did not want to hear it, the harsh reality is the computer is not the child's and its use was a priviledge , not a right.
Unfortunately these lessons are usually learned the hard way, over time. I've noticed that kids don't relly appreciate their parents positions/struggles until they themselves have reached their mid '20's. Just around the time that the real crunch of life becomes evident, such as university bills, saving for mortgages, whle paying for rent and food, wanting to get married, buy a car.... wow coincidence?
