There have been MANY times where we've sat and figured something out, just to have to scrape by again. Honestly, it's the coming home and not saying anything about how much he spent at the music store for his guitar, etc.
This is really the only problem we have in our relationship, so I still consider myself VERY lucky. But today I figured out all the math and sent an email (he's at work and it's easier through email than chat to list everything) and told him what I'm thinking will work. Basically that we'll each get a certain amount in CASH to spend each month, and once the cash runs out, oh well, too bad. We want to buy a house next year and that shit won't fly if we don't get everything straight NOW. I've always been a big saver, and it really sucks for me every time I have to transfer the funds from savings to checking just to cover stupid random purchases. Ugh.
And my 21st birthday is in April, and I wanna have a big chunk set aside cuz I am hell bent on going to Vegas to celebrate in ADDITION to a party I'm having that night.
Things'll be okay, I just really needed to rant. If nothing else works, I'll just chop up both debit cards. :nods vigorously: I rarely use mine anyway.