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TheProf · 02-15-2005, 04:51 AM

Hello,

I would like some insight into the difference between emotional fulfilment and sexual fulfilment, specifically for a woman.

Situation: My wife and I have now been married for over a year. During that year we've had very little intimacy of any sort. We're talking sex around 20 times total during that first year. Upon the many discussions we've had about this, she will cite the stresses of being newly married, new job, etc. etc. as major factors working against any sexual drive.

But it goes beyond just straight sex; she doesn't even like any sort of displays of love beyond hugging and kissing on the cheek. Those I get *many* of. But kissing on the lips - even a quick smack - is, according to her, in the same catagory as sexual contact. Same with touching any sexual area of her body.

In terms of of the fulfilment, she keeps telling me she gets all the fulfilment she needs from those cheek kisses/hugs. Anything else is just putting presure on her.

I personally cannot understand the difference, nor the lack of desire, for sexual fulfilment as well as the emotional one. And, as you can imagine, it is very frustrating and saddens me greatly.

Any thoughts? I'm sure much background is absent, but I don't know what's relevant and what's not, so I'll wait until there are comments/questions.

Thank you.

02-15-2005, 04:51 AM	#1 (permalink)
TheProf Crazy	Emotional fulfilment is enough? Hello, I would like some insight into the difference between emotional fulfilment and sexual fulfilment, specifically for a woman. Situation: My wife and I have now been married for over a year. During that year we've had very little intimacy of any sort. We're talking sex around 20 times total during that first year. Upon the many discussions we've had about this, she will cite the stresses of being newly married, new job, etc. etc. as major factors working against any sexual drive. But it goes beyond just straight sex; she doesn't even like any sort of displays of love beyond hugging and kissing on the cheek. Those I get many of. But kissing on the lips - even a quick smack - is, according to her, in the same catagory as sexual contact. Same with touching any sexual area of her body. In terms of of the fulfilment, she keeps telling me she gets all the fulfilment she needs from those cheek kisses/hugs. Anything else is just putting presure on her. I personally cannot understand the difference, nor the lack of desire, for sexual fulfilment as well as the emotional one. And, as you can imagine, it is very frustrating and saddens me greatly. Any thoughts? I'm sure much background is absent, but I don't know what's relevant and what's not, so I'll wait until there are comments/questions. Thank you.