Spritebox

I've been dating this girl for over a year and four months now, and I'm really starting to get frustrated beyond relief.

1) We can never talk about important issues regarding the relationship. Everytime I bring something up, she gets mad at me and suddenly "has to go" and hangs up. If the conversation is in person, she immediately asks for me to take her home.

For example, I was home on Saturday night hanging out with some friends. I woke up Sunday around 1 pm and had planned to drive back to college. She calls me and said she wanted to do something around 7 pm. I say ok, and I wait around for 6 hours. She calls me again around 7 and tells me she's at the movies with her father and sister and that she'll see me tomorrow. I tell her that I am dissapointed I didn't get to see her (not letting her know I am angry about it) and she has the nerve to get angry at ME. "I'm not choosing you over my family! Don't ask me to!".

She called me later that night and I tried to talk to her about the situation. I mentioned that it wasn't right for her to blow me off like that after I had waited around just for her. Well, she got mad again. I told her there was no reason for her to be upset and that I was just trying to talk things out. She got angrier and suddenly "had to go".



2) She doesn't appreciate me. I drive home nearly everyday (35 minute drive) to see her. She's never shown any appreciation for this. No "I'm so glad's", no "I love seeing you", no nothin'.

Example: For our one year anniversiary, I took her to the spa for a day of relaxation. 6 hours of nothing but massages, facials, etc, etc. The next day, she got mad at me for something rediculous and illogical, and acted like I had never done anything nice for her.

3) She is rediculously illogical. As you can probably tell from what's written above, she doesn't have a reason to be angry with me 99% of the time.

4) Relationships are supposed to be 50/50. I feel like ours is 99/1, with me doing 99% of the work needed to make things work.




I'm fed up. I'm going to start working on taking some of my eggs out of the basket instead of having them all in one. I realize that I can't depend on her for happiness, which I admit I have been doing. But lately, it's like betting on a lame horse to win a race.


I just need to find other things I enjoy doing so that when the day comes when she just gets too crazy for me, I can drop her and move on with my life comfortably.


Bleh. Argh. Perils.

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