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billege · 01-31-2005, 09:01 AM

Please, do yourself a favor. If you KNOW it's going to be a small and frugal wedding, adjust your expectations for that. I can't tell you how many girl-friends of mine or my wife's get married, and they do the "small inexpensive" bit, but really want a full on formal traditional wedding. Since that's what they're expecting/wanting, it's a mess.

Sit down with yourself and ask: what do I HAVE to have?
If you have to have the big dress, there goes $1000 plus. Accept that and move on.

If you HAVE to have big fancy hall, it's $$$. Accept that and move on.

If someone tells you: you can save $$$ by doing XXX yourself, then accept that will take TIME, and move on.

You trade TIME and EFFORT for saving $$$$. Accept that and move on. You're making center pieces? Okay, 10 tables? Okay, 10 hours....(including shopping to buy crafty supplies, driving time, glueing shit together, arguing with your fiance 'cause he's doing it wrong....redoing the one's he did....etc.)

Best advice I can give you is:
Take some serious looks at what you want. Not what you think people expect, but what you want. Then do what you want, and F everyone else's expectations.

01-31-2005, 09:01 AM	#15 (permalink)
billege Watcher Location: Ohio	Please, do yourself a favor. If you KNOW it's going to be a small and frugal wedding, adjust your expectations for that. I can't tell you how many girl-friends of mine or my wife's get married, and they do the "small inexpensive" bit, but really want a full on formal traditional wedding. Since that's what they're expecting/wanting, it's a mess. Sit down with yourself and ask: what do I HAVE to have? If you have to have the big dress, there goes $1000 plus. Accept that and move on. If you HAVE to have big fancy hall, it's $$$. Accept that and move on. If someone tells you: you can save $$$ by doing XXX yourself, then accept that will take TIME, and move on. You trade TIME and EFFORT for saving $$$$. Accept that and move on. You're making center pieces? Okay, 10 tables? Okay, 10 hours....(including shopping to buy crafty supplies, driving time, glueing shit together, arguing with your fiance 'cause he's doing it wrong....redoing the one's he did....etc.) Best advice I can give you is: Take some serious looks at what you want. Not what you think people expect, but what you want. Then do what you want, and F everyone else's expectations. __________________ I can sum up the clash of religion in one sentence: "My Invisible Friend is better than your Invisible Friend."