lurkette

I realized in another thread about loss how many people have lost someone close to them - family members, spouses, close friends. I know from my own experience how much of a difference it makes to have people know what's happened and be aware of the person who's passed, so I wanted to give people an opportunity to say whatever they wanted to say about their loved ones, their grief, their experience.

As most people know, my brother Josh died when he was 25, about a year & 1/2 ago. He was a skater, a computer geek, an iconoclast, a rebel. He had a disease that made him look different - he had no sweat glands, and he had sparse hair and teeth and dry skin. He was also very skinny from skating so much, and people often thought he had cancer or AIDS (he didn't). He lived life on his own terms and was one of the strongest people I know. It makes me so sad sometimes to think about the times in his life when he wasn't strong - when he was hurting over a lost love, when he was reminded of how different he was, when he thought about how life is just "lots of boredom in between happiness and pain" (his words). Sometimes I think about him saying that and wonder if he didn't give up (he was in a coma and getting better for a while) rather than put up with another 50 years of boredom.

Anyhow, I miss him and I love him.

Who have you lost? What do you miss about them? What would you say to them? What do you want us to know about them?

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"If ten million people believe a foolish thing, it is still a foolish thing."

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