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I didn't have any steady relationship at all until my late '20s, and I didn't have any _healthy_ steady relationships until my early '30s. Everybody's different. I eventually got married to somebody who's _a lot_ like me, but not so much that we get on each other's nerves. It's solid, and I'm glad I didn't commit to anything else just to make people happy. At one point, my mother asked me if I was gay!
Better to stay single all your life -- much better -- than to settle for less than the person who really suits you. If he/she doesn't come along, that's the breaks. Just make friends and dont' worry about relationships.
My wife is in a women's group that meets weekly to talk about sprirituality and their lives and such matters, and about 50 percent of the group isn't real happy with their marriages -- and these are the people who've been in marriages 10-20 years, have kids, and _aren't_ thinking of divorces. Between making money, raising the kids, and exhaustion, there really isn't anything in their marriages except, frankly, a practical working relationship. And a lot of _these_ people are the ones who are bugging you.
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