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Originally Posted by Manuel Hong
his response was, "Why do you think so? Does anyone ever really know?" Bummer. But we talked and we both admitted we were scared, and well, let's just see where it goes.
I'm starting to feel like this is smelling a bit like rejection. He sent a happy bday email, but didn't call or anything and ouch that hurt. I don't feel like he's troubled by this separation at all! He hasn't been in a relationship in years and has never been married. Is this guy backing away or is he just stupid in relationships? What should I do? Call him and ask the hard questions? See if he tries to make plans with me and play it cool or just cut and run? This is confusing and painful. I'm pretty vulnerable after only being divorced for a year and a half.  |
This sounds like the chronic "toxic bacholar"
, afraid of committtment and unable to really make an emotional connection for large periods of time that a long term relationship requires . . . call him and say your peice, tell him how he is making you feel, communicate to him what his actions are doing to your relationship . . .
However (and this may sound harsh, sorry) , even if you do say how you feel, that might not change the fact that this is how he acts in relationships and he might not know how to be emotionally available . . and i think you deserve better Manuel Hong . . .
